"Several years ago my marriage collapsed after my wife entered into a relationship with another man, a younger man. I did not have knowledge of it until she was irreversibly entrenched in the affair. We had a few talks. We went to a mariage counselor. I learned that I was being counseled to accept the change. We separated. We are going to be divorced. That's it! I felt powerless then. I feel powerless now. A unilateral decision was made. Done. No serious discussion about the cause(s) took place. The counselors accepted the woman's choice. The woman was not inclined to discuss why. No comment to me from family, friends, or workplace then or now. I would have welcomed interest and help. None. My point. The male stereotype is strong and silent. The female stereotype is weak and noisy. I was treated as a stereotypical male and she a stereotypical female. The culture legislated against me in favor of the woman on every level. All she had to say was "people change." Had I done the same thing the culture would have sympathized with the woman. It seemed that all of the consideration in this action was in the woman's favor. So, on one hand she was given the benefit of the doubt, i.e, I was justly left for another man without explanation, and on the other I am a man, and therefore there is no discussion necessary. I would be an adulterer if I was having the affair. The woman is excused by virtue of her sex and the new view of women as independent and free."
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